I spent a long time being the composed one. The one who held it together, who was
fine, who didn’t make it weird. And somewhere in all that composure I noticed
something: women are allowed to feel almost anything, as long as we feel it quietly. Be
sad, but not for too long. Be angry, but not out loud. Be grateful, always, on command,
no matter what it costs.
We are told, in a hundred small ways, that our feelings are too much — too intense,
too dramatic, too inconvenient. So we get good at swallowing them. We become experts at
I’m fine.
Em+Lo is the opposite of I’m fine.
It’s named for my two nieces — one quiet and composed, one all glitter and
volume — because every woman I know is both. The one who speaks with her face, and
the one who speaks with her words. This is a place for both of you.
The prompts are sometimes sweet and sometimes savage, because real life is both. You
choose which version of you shows up on any given page. Some days you’ll want to
count your blessings. Some days you’ll want to itemize your grudges. Both are
allowed here. That’s the whole point.
Beautiful enough to leave out. Honest enough to fill in.
Say the true thing. This is where it goes.